Speaking of Feelings

Where's the happiness?






​Whether we feel good or bad is up to us.  Two people in the same moment can have very different experiences. While one is laughing and enjoying, the other may be bored or unhappy.   And of course, a father and child can both be having a good time together. 
  
This opportunity of peace and joy are easily lost if we are not careful how we observe what's happening.  Much of what we observe is filtered through our memories or subconscious experiences.  For our purposes these are the same.  You remember your birthday, but don't think about it all the time.


Typically we go into situations with  our minds already made up about how things should unfold. It takes a practiced, disciplined mind to be flexible and accepting enough to accept what has already happened while bringing our best appreciation for what is unfolding. Very often our appreciation gets pushed aside by the disappointment of our personal view not being respected by life. 


Staying out of the future and past


​Focusing on what we needed in order to be happy in the past is one way to undo our peace. The other is imagining we won't have it in the future. We might call these regret and doubt. Both are uses of our minds powerful enough to cover the peace and joy which are right here, now.

The happiness lesson doesn't go away no matter how long we live. It is our human nature to be choosing. We choose things, feelings, perspectives and thoughts. All these combine and recombine to provide our individual experiences. And all the while the pieces continue to change moment by moment.

We will always have the choice of  pursuing "things" out in the world, or turning within with an intention of understanding how to bring our own inner peace into each successive situation.  

No matter how long we live the carrot of happiness will dangle just out of reach until we stop reaching outward for it through pleasure, power and objects. The carrot of happiness will change shape and color and size all day long tempting us  with thoughts and images, memories and imaginings, until we simply accept that happiness cannot be reached outside of us without first finding it within us. Once we are in connection with  Inner wisdom, we will experience Its joy in whatever situation we find ourselves

BEING HAPPY
​"MOST PEOPLE ARE ABOUT AS HAPPY AS THEY MAKE 
UP THEIR MINDS TO BE." --ABRAHAM LINCOLN   

We are able to experience happiness only when we are willing to accept Its presence. Peace exists as happiness already within us, around us, before and after us. Because happiness is already here, it is futile to find it. It's much like seeking life. It's already here.   


Seeking objects, pleasures, power can do nothing to make happiness occur. In fact, the pursuit of happiness turns it into the carrot just out of reach. It is only our present moment acceptance of peace and joy that allow their experience to emerge.  


What actually happens when we become happy is that we accept happiness with out thinking. For example, "If I can have the carrot, then  I'll be happy" is a thought that might be restated, "If I can have the carrot then I'll accept my happiness."  The important understanding is in the power of our own acceptance. What we accept, we experience.  

The effort to find  Peace and joy are easily lost if we are not careful how we become aware of the past or future. Focusing on what we needed in order to be happy in the past is one way to undo our peace. The other is imagining we won't have it in the future. We might call these regret and doubt.  Both are uses of our minds powerful enough to cover the peace and joy which are right here, now.We will always have the choice of  pursuing "things" out in the world, or turning within with an intention of understanding how to bring our own inner peace into each successive situation. No matter how long we live the carrot of happiness will dangle just out of reach until we stop reaching outward for it through pleasure, power and objects.  


The carrot of happiness will change shape and color and size all day long tempting us  with thoughts and images, memories and imaginings, until we simply accept that happiness cannot be reached outside of us without first finding it within us. Once we are in connection with  Inner wisdom, we will experience Its joy in whatever situation we find ourselves. Happiness is a quest destined to come up empty. Even when we do find some "thing" that we feel happy about---new job, clothes, car, friend, lover, accomplishment our minds are soon looking for something else to give us new happiness. The quest for happiness goes on as long as we ignore the presence of joy already within us.    


"What we are looking for, we are looking at and looking with."   Ernest Holmes


Where did my happpiness go?Where is the happiness we were experiencing just a minute ago? The high and sense of well being has seemed to evaporate. Now minutes later we find ourselves hungry for more happiness.Where is the happiness now? Peace and happiness are everywhere, and have not gone anywhere.It is only our awareness that has moved. Our awareness has likely moved out of the present to the past or the future. Hasn't gone anywhere. 

Peace and joy are waiting for our attention, which has wandered off someplace else, looking for happiness.Being happy is a choice that we apply to situations. Joy, peace and happiness are inherent in every moment.It's our choice as Mr. Lincoln said above. Happiness requires mental discipline and organization.Those who are disciplined and keep their minds clear of unhappy thoughts are more satisfied than those who don't.  

Those who are contented, satisfied, happy, are choosing to literally be happiness for the moment.We choose to become happiness by forming thoughts which are in line with  ideas of satisfaction and peace.Sensing the approach or presence of unhappy thoughts, we are in a position to think  thoughts which align with our harmony.When we are disciplined enough to monitor our minds, we can be aware of the nature of our thoughts, and withholding attention from negative thoughts, experience happiness as a choice.

Satisfied people occupy their minds with appreciation.Feeling happy is one part of having an approving mindset.Regardless of where we turn our approving eyes and ears.the experience will include happiness.Approval  of the weather,  people, our selves---all bring a sense of peaceful contentedness.Yet being appreciative is a demanding task.There is nothing but our own vigilance to keep us from using our minds for disapproval.Because exposure to negative, disapproval rests right alongside appreciation, our mindful awareness is necessary in making a choice we will experience as appreciative. 

Using our eyes and ears to promote appreciation, listening and looking for beauty, harmony, loving connection, is a practice which keeps us from deciding,"I'll be happy when...." .   
Happiness in the present moment means diligence in thought.Working to appreciate the here and now requires letting go of "there and then" happiness.  
Thinking in ways that promote appreciation requires the intention from within us to do just that.  And once we intend and experience a moment of acceptance and appreciation, we experience the peace of our minds again.   

"The way to get what you want is to want what you get." Eleanor Roosevelt